Not the SumMEr of Me

With another tax season behind me and summer approaching, my thought was “this is going to be MY summer.”  I had neglected myself for far too long and the effects of non-stop stress had taken their toll on me — mind and body.  Not long afterwards, my wonderful friend Renee announced her blog series, SumMer of Me.

Perfect for me; fit right in with my plan.  Alas, so much for plans — sometimes life just happens.  Now as summer is drawing to a close, I have to admit it clearly was NOT a summer of me.

However, I did have a week of me!  It was to be my kickoff for the summer.  Kris Carr has an amazing story, and she is my hero.  If you’re not familiar with her and her bestselling book, Crazy, Sexy Diet, check it out.

I had passed it along to my daughter and in June she suggested that we do a detox week together — well, as together as you can get when I’m in Kentucky and she’s in Texas.  Using many of the suggestions from Kris Carr’s book and some of our own, we came up with a list of things to try to do every day.  Here’s the sheet she made for us.  By the way, if you read this, “crack” is sugar.  So, don’t call the authorities — sugar is a legal drug.  You can download a PDF copy here.  Or there is one with a whole month on one page here.

For over a week, I was sugar-free, caffeine-free, gluten-free, alcohol-free and vegan.  The toughest was giving up my morning coffee.  Next was sugar.  I meditated, exercised and did yoga.  I drank green juice daily.  Once I got past the coffee withdrawal, I felt amazing.  Then life, and the stress that comes with it.  There were less and less check marks.  Then maybe only a check mark here or there.  The summer was no longer about me.

But I’m not quitting.  My list can be full of checks again.  It will be the “Fall of ME.”  Or maybe before you start imagining my demise, it should be the “Autumn of ME.”  As a side note, my daughter has continued with all things healthy.  I would love to hear what you think should be on a healthy list.

P.S.  My daughter just commented:  Just wanted to clarify “my daughter has continued with all things healthy”…. it should read, “my daughter attempts every day to do all things healthy (but sometimes fails miserably, which is ok).” It’s a struggle to fit all these healthy things in each day with all the stresses, drama, and lack of time associated with everyday life. It’s the attempt that counts.  I’m one lucky Mom!


  1. Love your post. I printed out a couple of the checklists – they are great. Thank you so much for sharing!

  2. What a great form of mindfulness. Much much muuuuuuch easier than keeping a journal! I’ve downloaded the pdf. As long as you keep trying, that’s the whole point. You don’t have to be Saint Constance or Mother Teresa – we’d still love you ANYWAY – but it’s the journey that counts for everything. This, from a wagon-falling genius, hahahaha. But I applaud you for doing it!

  3. Love the list that you and your daughter came up with. Good luck. Keep trying. That’s what counts. It’s not easy eliminating a lot of things from our lifestyle. Over time it’s do-able, baby steps. Be gentle with yourself. One thing I have heard often is eating tiny meals 6 times a day or so. I have a hard time doing that. I don’t like to take the time to eat that often.

  4. Connie – Thank you so much for your generous heart and for sharing yet another fantastic piece of information to help us all get out acts together! What good does it do us if we have our businesses in order, but we physically and mentally are a mess? I know my life is much richer having met you (so fun to have met in person even) and being able to call you my friend. I can’t wait for our next get-together, which I think needs to be soon! xo, Kathleen

  5. Just wanted to clarify “my daughter has continued with all things healthy”…. it should read, “my daughter attempts every day to do all things healthy (but sometimes fails miserably, which is ok).” It’s a struggle to fit all these healthy things in each day with all the stresses, drama, and lack of time associated with everyday life. It’s the attempt that counts.
    Word of caution for anyone who attempts the Crazy, Sexy, Diet challenge: You will feel awful for the first couple of days. You will want to cry, scream, and bury your head in a pillow to try to block out the withdrawal headaches. But then you wake up one day, and you feel AMAZING!!

  6. We all stumble and fall and it’s the getting back up and trying again and again that prove our resolve. Hey, going a week without all that junk is amazing! I know, I’ve done it many times and for much longer periods of time. Every single day that we take the time to care for ourselves is worth it in the long run. You’ve accomplished a ton of great things this summer Constance. Be proud of yourself.

  7. I love and printed this check list and for me I will be adding (acknowldege a person- who happend to cross your mind today, maybe a family member,friend or someone in a grocery store ) in all of our caring for self, I have found I like to know that I have taken time each day to either chat, email, send a joke or picture to someone, every day. My husband says I never met a stranger. When a smile comes over a strangers face that you acknowldeged them, you can’t help but to feel good about it, adding those good endorfins into our bodies as well. silly I know but it is one way for me to know that I am truly in the moment with today

  8. Connie, I’m struck by how much I’d like to use something like this list, and how sometimes it’s the right time, and sometimes it’s not the right time. For me, right now, I’m sorting out which of those things on the list make sense for me, and practicing self-kindness during the sorting phase. Thank you for sharing.

  9. Connie,
    This is huge, what a big accomplishment. As much as I would like to “be healthy” I have to face the fact that I just don’t have the determination or conviction at this time to take on something this big. I guess I could or should do these things in small junks. One step at a time. Thanks for sharing your experience.

  10. Connie, I have not heard of this book but I want to read it now! I, too, am trying to have seasons of “me.” LOL Yes, life does get in the way. But everyday is a new day and a clean slate to start over. I love that your daughter did this with you! Maybe I can convince my daughter to give it a whirl. But I’m totally not sure I can ditch the morning coffee or drink anything green! 🙂

    • The morning coffee was a toughie. I’ve been drinking coffee since I was about five years old. And I love the morning coffee ritual. But believe it or not, I’m still not drinking coffee. I’ve had three cups since the beginning of June.

  11. Connie, this is GREAT! I printed out the monthly one and will begin using it on the 1st! I won’t be doing it all (at least not initially) but I may exchange some things (like taking away yoga and adding art!) and we’ll see how I do with holes. I am a perfectionist, and it may not be good for me to SEE all in one place my “shortcomings.” BUT, if it spurs me to do better, it WILL be good! Thank you for sharing!

    • Glad you like it, Janet. Other than my one week, I probably won’t be having everything checked. But I’m hoping that it will point out to me areas that I’m going lots of days without doing — so that I can concentrate on those.

  12. Wandered here from Renee’s blog, in spite of the fact she mentioned there was a spreadsheet!! So glad I did. I love the spreadsheet. I love the idea of keeping track of positive steps like this – I never thought I’d say this – but this spreadsheet actually says “joy”. Thank you for sharing it. And yeah, every day, every week, we start over but this is a good way to see the areas that we’re doing great in and the areas we might want to ramp up a bit. Fabulous.


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